Shining light in the dark.

shirebarbie:

FRIENDS!! take a snack and pass it on 💛

🍉

🥐

🧀

🧁

🍒

🍟

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🍪

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monstermoviedean:

daily reminders

• no human being is 100% happy 100% of the time
• being a person is extraordinarily difficult even in the best of times
• this is not the best of times
• someone is grateful you exist (don’t argue, it’s true)
• a bad day does not predict a bad existence
• it’s gonna be okay

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salmonandsoup:

sosayset:

seymour-butz-stuff:

c-ptsdrecovery:

educatedsavage:

probablyasocialecologist:

sisyphereantask:

sustainableseparatists:

rumade:

I’d divorce him too lmao

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

The Atlantic

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood. 

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”

And if you can’t respond to the emotional bid at that moment, let them know you heard them. If there’s a gorgeous bird outside, ask your loved one to take a picture so you can share in it together. But by god, hear them. Tell them they were listened to.

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nitrosplicer:

Fully losing it at this facebook screenshot. 22 inches of green and 1.5 of carrot.

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bellatrixobsessed1:

mistr3ssquickly:

2urban2fantasy:

iosonomer-blog:

You cannot possibly guess where this is going

I ain’t even ashamed how many times I watched this.

Lmao this is the content I am here for.

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luthienne:

anyway literally everyone is going through something all the time!!! everyone is wounded!!! everyone is human & no one makes it out of this life unscathed!! maybe try approaching people in good faith instead of always defaulting to the worst possible interpretations of each other

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weakerthan:

dni if: you have perfect eyesight, clean your room regularly, never want any tattoos, hate milk, are taller than 5’5, don’t own a watch, hate on feel-good movies, don’t use chapstick, sleep with more than 2 pillows, prefer stem over humanities, never had an emo phase, have your own car, actually look like your age, live in a large city, use a planner for school/work, use twitter, have led lights in your room, like swedish fish, look good in yellow, have bad handwriting, or bite your nails.

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gothycollie:

🔥 Korfball🌍

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felixcloud6288:

flyinshark:

felixcloud6288:

flyinshark:

I feel cheated. no one on Reddit told me that tumblr is a serotonin factory. Keep liking and reblogging my posts please thanks

Just don’t fly too close to the sun.

Throw me to the sun and I’ll get it pregnant

Fellas (gender neutral), you heard him. Ready the catapults.

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itslookingback:

itslookingback:

take me to church is still an amazing song. btw. if you wanted to know

no but literally. she tells me worship in the bedroom. the only heaven i’ll be sent to is when i’m alone with you. i was born sick but i love it. command me to be well. if you’re even listening

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spatialapprentice:

avidcollectorofdust:

spatialapprentice:

wizard yaoi in the psychedelic dragon domain

I think this is the only post I’ve had a genuine “none of these words are in the bible” reaction to

ALT

ALT

Literally the first two words in the bible are here.

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internetslice:

aken:

   ∧ __ ∧
（｀•ω• )づ__∧
（つ　 / ( •ω•。)
  しーＪ  (nnノ) pat pat

reblog to pat ur mutuals on their silly heads

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